frequently asked questions

Our Program

What does the fingerprint signify?


The Freein13 fingerprint logo represents the uniqueness of each participant and the predictable patterns of pornography use. As unique and individual each participant may be, they all share predictable patterns; no one is special. Fingerprints are patterns of skin ridges that are markers of human individuality. And despite the fact that everyone has them, no two people are identical.




What makes you different from other programs?


Freein13 is different from other programs because it is a real time, off-screen coaching program. It requires the participant to engage with written material, journaling, and weekly accountability with a mentor.




Do you use a 12 step program?


No. Freein13 does not use any form of group therapy or meeting. 12 Step Addiction recovery programs are for those who have been diagnosed with an addiction by a medical or counseling professional and directed to the program as a part of their therapy regime.




Can a person really be free from pornography in 13 weeks?


Yes. Outcomes may vary from one individual to the next. But, generally speaking, once an individual starts in earnest, it is possible to be free from the habit of viewing pornography in 13 weeks. Individuals who experience successful outcomes will have regained the ability physically, emotionally, and spiritually to continue to be free.




How does this program work?


Freein13 is a face-to-face coaching program that recruits the help of a self/family-appointed Mentor. The Mentor, with the help of their Mentor Manual, guides the participant through 13 weeks of lessons to help them break free from the trap of pornography. Manuals for Parents and Adult Participants are also available. Participants of any age should use a Freein13 journal.




How does the program work for adults?


Freein13 works by: (1) providing an instructional Manual to gain an understanding of the root problem and its solution. (2) By guiding the participant to selecting a suitable accountability mentor. They then meet with the mentor weekly (or more often if needed). During the meeting they will review the past week, performance on assignments, and key behavioral indicators. The new lesson material will be presented and assignments made. This will assure the participant gains and practices the behavioral and emotional skills to remain free. The participant must be willing and not forced to do the program.




Does the program work for those in couples? Or those who are married?


Yes; however, while the program does work for those married or in relationships, generally the difficulties caused by pornography use in the relationship necessitates professional help for both the participant and his/her partner.




Do you have an app?


No.The Freein13 program is purposely presented in printed format, with the objective of diminishing the time spent using screens. Face-to-face interaction with a Mentor and the act of physically writing are important components of the program. Scientific literature confirms that the act of writing, not typing enables the individual to learn better and increases focus.

For many, the growing dependence on electronic devices to access the internet for immediate answers, entertainment, and social engagement is a part of the problem. This ease of access, to a seemingly unending source of images and videos facilitates entrapment. Ironically, most self-help programs addressing pornography use depend on technology and encourage more screen time in the virtual world. Freein13 purposely chooses the benefits of connecting the participant to the “real” world through printed media, reading, and writing.




Why is a Mentor important?


Accountability is key! One of the most difficult parts of the trap is the shame and reluctance of the participant to fully share their history and situation with those close to them. Also, most people are not able to do everything necessary to free themselves alone. Being able to confide in a trusted mentor who will provide emotional support, guidance, and accountability has been shown to be a most effective way to help people escape the trap.




Which manuals do I need?


If your child is viewing pornography:

• Parent’s Manual for the parent

• Mentor Manual for their chosen Mentor

• Participant Journal for the adolescent

If I am viewing pornography:

• Adult Manual for you

• Mentor Manual for your chosen Mentor

• Participant Journal for you

If I am Mentoring an Adolescent:

• Mentor Manual for you

• Participant Journal for the adolescent

If I am Mentoring an Adult:

• Mentor Manual for you

• Adult Manual for the participant

• Participant Journal for the participant

Manuals and the participant journal may be purchased separately, or as a kit, which is a 20% saving of buying them separately.




How does the program work for children?


Freein13 works for children in 2 ways. (1) By providing a Parent Manual that helps parents gain an understanding of the problem and solution. (2) The family then selects a suitable accountability mentor for the child. The mentor then meets weekly (or more often if needed) to guide the child through the weekly exercises, holds them accountable, and teaches them the behavioral and emotional skills to escape the trap, and to remain free.

The child must be willing and not forced to do the program.




Why does it take a minimum of 13 weeks to be free?


Once an individual has stopped viewing pornography and acting out sexually, the body requires 13 weeks to return to homeostasis (normal levels of neurochemicals and hormones).




Does Freein13 minimize the effort required to escape the trap?


No. The process requires effort and can be difficult. However, mentors provide an invaluable resource through accountability and guidance to achieve a successful outcome. The participant may experience some challenges especially in the early stages of the program. However, once the participant begins in earnest, establishing the last time they use pornography, they will be on their way to completing the 13 weeks required for homeostasis.





Addiction

What is pornography addiction?


The definition of pornography addiction is not universally recognized among mental health professionals. While the APA (American Psychiatric Association) reports that pornography use does not fit standard addiction models, the ASAM (American Society of Addiction Medicine) does. However, even in their acceptance of a “pornography addiction” they have created a broader term, compulsive sexual behavior disorder as the diagnosis, not pornography addiction per se.

The large majority of individuals who view pornography are not addicted. The use of pornography whether it is occasional, frequent, or intensive does not satisfy the requirements of addiction models. Even intensive users, according to the APA, are not in the same category as those with drug and alcohol problems. There is considerable debate within the medical community whether pornography addiction is a real diagnosis.




What is the difference between being trapped and addicted?


Those who are trapped are somewhere on the spectrum of use from inadvertent to excessive. Freein13’s core belief is that the great majority of those who view pornography are not addicted. While the majority of users are somewhere on this spectrum there are those who may exhibit compulsive sexual behavior. These individuals should seek professional counseling.





Therapy

Are you therapists?


No. Freein13 is a mentoring/coaching program. It is not meant to replace professional therapy/counseling. As stated in the manual “It is very important to uncover past emotional traumas and hidden episodes of abuse so the victim may have success in getting out of the trap. In the case of an individual who may report a history of being a victim of abuse, sexual or otherwise, it is important to properly address this very serious problem. It may also be a good idea to consider adding professional counseling with a trusted psychologist or therapist to work through these more complicated issues.




Do you believe in therapy?


Yes. Freein13 is a mentoring/coaching program. It is not meant to replace professional therapy/counseling. As stated in the manual “It is very important to uncover past emotional traumas and hidden episodes of abuse so the victim may have success in getting out of the trap. In the case of an individual who may report a history of being a victim of abuse, sexual or otherwise, it is important to properly address this very serious problem. It may also be a good idea to consider adding professional counseling with a trusted psychologist or therapist to work through these more complicated issues.





Manuals

Which manuals do I need?


If your child is viewing pronography:

• Parent’s Manual for the parent

• Mentor Manual for their chosen Mentor

• Participant Journal for the adolescent

If I am viewing pornography:

• Adult Manual for you

• Mentor Manual for your chosen Mentor

• Participant Journal for you

If I am Mentoring an Adolescent:

• Mentor Manual for you

• Participant Journal for the adolescent

If I am Mentoring an Adult:

• Mentor Manual for you

• Adult Manual for the participant

• Participant Journal for the participant

Manuals and the participant journal may be purchased separately, or as a kit, which is a 20% saving of buying them separately.




What if I need/want another journal?


Some may want to continue to use the Freein13 journal after completion of the program. Freein13 journals are available for individual sale through the website.




What is the cost for shipping, and how fast will I receive my materials?


There are 2 shipping options:

Free Shipping using USPS Media mail that takes 5-7 Days.

USPS Expedited Shipping takes 1-3 Days at a cost of $6.99.





Do I need a Mentor?

Can I do this program without a mentor?


Yes. However, we strongly recommend using a mentor to support and provide weekly accountability. We recognize that it may be difficult or awkward for some adults to select and trust a mentor. We offer a word of caution regarding this issue; Do not let your pride or potential lack of humility be the sole reason you choose to not engage a mentor.




What do I need if I do this on my own?


You will need the mentor manual and the journal. You will need to read through the mentor part and the general information, answer all questions, journal, and track your progress.




What if I can't find a Mentor?


We suggest meeting with a leader of a local organization who might be, or suggest, an appropriate Mentor. Here are some suggestions of such organizations:

  • Church
  • Synagogue
  • Temple
  • Support Group
  • Community Center
  • Fraternal Organization
  • YWCA
  • Service Organization
  • Social Club





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